"How are you feeling?"

Though we were nervous, being able to share our pregnancy news with family, friends, and coworkers has been a joy and a relief. Keeping a secret for three months is difficult, especially when you throw in obstacles such as dinners with coworkers, holidays, the fact that you’ve lost your job and you’d really like to enjoy the world’s largest margarita but cant. Most everyone was pleasantly surprised to hear the news, especially those who apparently thought we would wait another five years! Though everyone’s reaction has been a bit different, I am overwhelmingly surprised at the one common response from 99% of them…”how are you feeling?!” I feel fine…why, do I look bad? Omg, I do don’t I, I suddenly look pregnant and sick don’t I? So my face is broke out and my hair is more unruly than usual, but really, I feel fine.

I know that I am a fortunate one, of a select few who suffers very few ramifications of the first trimester of pregnancy. For that, I am truly thankful! So I realize that because there are so many women out there who have to endure various “things” associated with pregnancy, it is very common to ask how one is feeling during the course of their nine months. It’s only natural and I now find myself wondering, in retrospect, is that what I’ve said to expectant moms when I heard their news? Probably.

I had a lunch meeting today to which the salesperson said to me upon finding out I was expecting, “Well, you sure don’t look it!” Thanks, I thought, for not asking how I was “feeling.” May it be no surprise that the salesperson was a man.